I never believed in love at first sight. Especially in this day in age I find it impossible to meet someone, fall in love and boom get married. There are just so many other factors that come into play. Do you have the same interests? Do you want the same things in life? What annoys you? What doesnt? What are your values? Are you someone willing to sacrifice everything for love? And most of all.. will you still get along, will you still be in love after the honeymoon stage is over? These things take time to learn about one another. And things change. Time changes you, people change you, life experiences change you. I've always said that I would wait no less than 3 years at the least before even thinking about getting married. I always said that I wanted to wait until I was older before I got married.
On a drive down to a meeting my boss and I were chatting away I was telling her about my dreams to get married and have the perfect wedding. I told her that I wanted to wait at least 4-5 years after being with someone before getting married. Then I was shocked when she told me that she me her husband in January, She lived in Buffalo, he lived in Vermont. By September they were married and living happily in Vermont... Its now 10 years later and they are still together, still happy, still married. I didn't think that type of love existed. I didn't think you could meet someone, fall in love and suddenly know that hes the one. Granted she was 44 when they met and he was already divorced with a son. So guess my question is, is it really possible to have that love at first sight feeling and just know? And if so, is it possible today, at our age to jump on the marriage train after only 9 months of knowing someone and live happily ever after? My boss was telling me that before she met her husband she had been living with a man for 16 years. 16 years!!!!!! She never had any intentions on getting married, it just wasn't what she wanted, but then she she fell in love and those plans change.
So many people fall in love and are willing to drop everything for that person. How is it so different after living with someone for 16 years not ever wanting to get married and then meeting someone and wanting to marry them after 3 weeks. They met in January and were engaged by February. How do you go from not wanting to get married especially to someone you've been with for 16 years.. to falling in love and wanting to get married after only 3 weeks. Maybe i'll never understand that because I haven't been in love like that. Maybe it takes a different kind of love. Maybe it takes 44 years to find that love. The only problem is I don't want to wait that long.
I want to have kids and I want to have a family more than anything. The only problem is, it takes time, a womens clock I guess you could say runs out a lot faster than a mans. Also, I want to be a younger mom, I want to have the energy to run around with my children while I can. So with that in mind, i don't want to wait until I'm 44 to find the love of my life. I guess you just can't ever really tell how your life will end up. When I try to think about it, I have it all planned out exactly how I want things to go. Exactly how I want my life to happen and in my head it all plays out just so nicely. I know thats just a fantasy and I know most likely that will never ever happen. But I guess its just fun to think about. its exciting to see where my life will go, who I will meet, where I will end up. I'll never know until its here, so I guess I'll just enjoy the ride while I can.
As for my thoughts on love at first sight, I guess i've learned that it is possible, but at 22 it might be a little impossible. I'm young and still learning and still changing a lot and I still don't know a lot about life, I guess at 44 you're a little more stuck in your ways and that type of love is possible to pick up everything and get married just like that. I don't know.... life is weird.
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Love at first site - sure I believe in it, but perhaps we should say lust at first site. Do you ever meet some really nice looking, great personality, and think to yourself (and only yourself)"I could fall in love with him". But that is as far as it goes, because he never asks you out. Who knows what would have happened if you only could have had that first date. Physical attraction and lust is the human nature in us that attracts us to other people, otherwise men and woman would never be together. We mistake this for love. Real love is a choice we make. The work is trying to keep that love alive. I have seen people fall in love as teenagers get married and stay married forever, are they happy? They look happy. Are they still in love? I have seen people date for many years, look like they are in love, get married, have it all and then find out later in life they have grown apart and no longer love each other. Love and marriage is hard work on both parts, some days it good and some days it bad. There are no guarantees in life, you will find that special person when it's meant to be, and it will go the way it is suppose to go, hopefully it will last forever, but nothing is forever as life does come to an end. Don't give up your hopes and dreams, just be willing to bend the rules a little, not everything goes as WE plan, but rather go the way they are suppose to go. When you find it enjoy for the day.
limerance. 'nuff said.
I honestly believe when you meet the right person, you know. I think I know because I think I know who that right person is for me. hmmm.
you'll find your knight in shining armor - perhaps, you just need to ask *him* to go up a mountain ;)
Love is a bitch. Can't let it find you, and you can't find it. Not you bu the you in general. I hear ya.
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